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Posted by on Oct 26, 2017 in Family Life | 0 comments

It’s All Fun and Games Until a Lawyer Needs to be Called

My sister Suzan has always been really good at dating people I don’t like. It’s fine because she’s her own woman, but still, she has poor taste if you ask me or other members of my family. When she got married two years ago, everyone was slightly surprised. “Really? This is who you want to marry?” You should have seen the look on my dad’s face when she announced it at the dinner table. First red flag, her fiance, Cooper wasn’t even with her when she told our family. The excuse? He doesn’t like to spend a lot of time around family, not even his own. Ummm, that did not make anyone feel better about the situation.

My parents tried their best to talk Suzan out of it, but in the end, they respected her decision. She had a small ceremony, and the wedding went alright, except for a few hiccups amongst the groom’s family. The funniest thing happened when Cooper’s cousin stood up to give a toast and fell over. She was desperately trying to grab anything to save her from falling, and ended up grabbing the tablecloth and pulling the punch bowl down on top of her!

Normally I wouldn’t be so cruel as to laugh at another’s misfortune, but this chick had it coming. I believe it is known as karma across the Pacific, and she is just a rude person. Every time I’ve seen her she’s always drinking too much Boone’s Farm and turns into a terrible person. Anyways, I won’t be seeing much of her anymore because Suzan is getting a divorce.

Thank GOD they don’t have any children, but it’s still a complete headache. Apparently, Cooper is sleeping with someone else, and that dirtbag has been lying this whole time. I don’t know why Suzan even married him the first place because I am not surprised at all. I went over to their house to help her pack some things and come live with me for a while, and Cooper’s cousin was there drinking her trashy juice. By the time we were almost done packing, she was feeling it and started making rude comments. As soon as she started, I couldn’t hold it in anymore. I let her have a piece of my mind, and it felt great…until she punched me in the face and made my nose bleed. Luckily the queen of booze can’t really punch well, and I didn’t break anything, but I was so pissed.

Of course, the police came, but we ended up not filing charges. I almost felt bad for causing more drama for Suzan, but she totally has my back. The whole ordeal happened so fast, that I was totally caught off guard. We both had a lot of questions about what to do next, but we found a great lawyer who helped us with all of our problems. She is definitely getting a divorce now, per the advice of  Kessler & Solomiany, LLC, and I’m surprised at how complicated it can be. Good thing these guys know what their doing, I think they’re worth every penny.

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Posted by on May 4, 2016 in Family Life | 0 comments

Signs That You Need To Consult A Marriage Counselor

When we decide to get married, we aspire to make it work and perfect. Just like in fairy tales, our objective is to “live happily ever after.” But like what they say there is no such thing as perfect. While we want to make our married life work, there will come a time when things will not go well. Most couples who still believe that they can still fix their marriage end up making things worse.

Just because you cannot fix your relationship does not mean it is beyond repair. It only means that no one wants to give in and you are fixing it based on what you want. If your spouse is no longer happy, there is a relationship problem that you need to fix. According to the website of Kathleen Snyder, relationship struggles can be difficult for couples to handle. This is where a marriage counselor can help you.Seeking the help of a marriage counselor can work wonders for the married couples. Figures from Statistics Brain revealed the following numbers:

  1. 65% of couples reported significant improvement after seeing a marriage counselor
  2. 75% of couples believe that they are “better off” after a counseling session
  3. 50 percent of couples still maintain their improved relationship two years after counseling
  4. 22% of couples who attended marriage counseling cite love for each other as their reason for attendance while 19% say that they do not communicate well
  5. Married couple would attend an average of 20 sessions in marriage counseling

But when is the proper time to get into marriage counseling? Here are some of the signs that you need the help of a relationship professional:

  1. When there is no communication. In reality, the challenge in most relationships is the lack of communication. When couples do not talk, it is usually hard to get back in the right direction. A counselor can device new ways for the people to communicate
  1. When there is communication but always negative. When the talking is in the negative, your spouse would feel that they are being judged, shamed, disregarded, or insecure. When the married couple talks in the negative, the communication turns into emotional abuse
  1. When you are afraid to open up. When there is an issue that you need to communicate with your spouse but you just cannot do it, it is really a problem. A marriage counselor can help you clear things up with your spouse.
  1. When affection is taken as a punishment. When you give your spouse the silent treatment and vice versa, it only shows imbalance in your relationship.
  1. When you are considering or already having an affair. Contemplating about having an affair shows that you are looking for something different from your current relationship. While survival is still possible even after the affair, it is best to nip it in the bud right away. As long as you and your partner are committed to working things out, the marriage can still be saved.
  1. When you are living independent from each other. When you and your partner become more like roommates than a married couple. The lack of communication, intimacy, and the feeling of just “co-existing” is a tell tale sign that something is wrong with your relationship and you need a professional to bring back the spark in your relationship.

Marriage is not like a grocery item that you can easily return and replace with another item. It is a life long commitment. For any signs of trouble, the couple needs to work things out or if they cannot, a marriage counselor can help them patch things up.

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